Are you aware that the language you use to describe your daily life can be creating or adding to stress? Neuroscientists tell us that it takes just seven (7) repetitions of a statement to create a belief. That works for positive statements as well as negative statements. It is just as easy to create a positive belief as it is to create a negative one.
I bet there are days when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and say to yourself; “I’m having a bad hair day.” If you’re like me, you are also repeating that phrase while you get dressed, when you come down the stairs to have breakfast and while you travel to work. By the time you actually get to work, you have repeated that statement to yourself so many times that you’ve created a bad hair day. If someone were to say “Hey you’re looking good today” there is no way you would believe it. Just think what beliefs you are creating when you say “I am so stressed” or “I’m so stupid!”
Here are two ways to counteract this belief-creation:
State the opposite:
When you find your inner dialogue focusing on a negative thought immediately, affirm the opposite.
For example, if you start thinking, “I am tired,” stop and say to yourself, “that’s not true, I’m not tired, I’m just fine.” By changing the statement you don’t move into belief-creation. So, when your inner dialogue presents you with a thought that may not be true, challenge it.
Acknowledge the feeling:
The second option is to change the form of the statement. Instead of making a declarative statement: “I am tired”, acknowledge the underlying feeling instead: “I feel tired”.
I picked up this tip earlier this week and have been playing with it myself. Somehow, “I feel tired” is different in my body. When you change your language to acknowledge an emotion you give yourself the wiggle-room to disprove the statement. For example, looking in the mirror saying “I feel like I’m having a bad hair day” leaves room for you to accept that actually your hair might be just fine. Also, emotions are quite fleeting by their nature, and by stating your emotion, you simply note your current state without focussing on it. You don’t move into the belief-creation-zone.
Play around with the language of your inner dialogue and see if you can reduce your stress.
If you get stuck, try the stress relief techniques which uses the 7 repetition concept to positive effect – the I AM CALM meditation helps you to create your own positive belief. You can find it at: http://cognitusuk.com/free-stuff